Sunday Reset Edition 4: Positivity

We live in a society constrained to negativity, and this same negativity is consuming your life and stripping you of the happiness you deserve.

The news, social media, your co-workers, that radio station you listen to on the way home from work,

it’s everywhere, and if you don’t know how to shield your mind from it, you can be consumed by it, ultimately affecting your progress and happiness in life.

The definition of negativity is the expression of criticism of or pessimism about something.

I think it’s important to read the definition and really reflect on your own life. Look back and ask, are you living a life of pessimism or optimism?

You must become aware of the negativity that comes from your own thoughts or mouth without you even realizing it because negativity, as I said, is everywhere.

We need to reverse engineer it out of our lives and consume positivity.

You know how it feels to spend time around a pessimist- not fun. They constantly bicker and talk bad about whatever. Don’t be that person; not only will people not want to be around you, but it can also drag you into a self-obsessed, arrogant, and negative phase of life.

Even as kids in school, we looked to negativity to fill our time. Every day we always had to know the drama that had gone down. Someone did what? That person did this?

We sought the daily drama because we were attracted to what was happening.

I was awful about this until my senior year of high school when I decided to drop the childish games and move on to a simpler life where I could focus my energy on growing.

The results?

I had more developmental growth senior year than almost my entire life. I went to the gym 5-6 days a week, constantly learning and consuming education, budgeted better than ever, and everything started moving forward.

I wouldn’t say dropping the drama was the sole contributor to this, but I believe it allowed me to gain the mental space I had occupied for years with drama.

This is also why I want to show you how to do the same because I know leaving a life of pessimism was one of the best things I could do, and it has allowed me to be in the best mental shape of my life.

You hear it all over social media. “Be happy.” “Embrace yourself.” “Self-love.”

It’s all junk.

You get fed this shallow, no-value advice of being happy and all this other shit, but no actual method to doing so.

While I appreciate people trying to help others be more happy. Posting “Be happy today” on your Instagram story does not really affect the people seeing that.

This especially sucks for the people who hate their lives and are told to be happy but then get no step-by-step way of doing so.

Trust me, I get it. It can almost feel like a punch in the face when someone tells you to be happy as they sit on the beach in the Bahamas sipping a margarita while you sit in your little apartment, broke, sad, and nothing going for you.

We can introduce positivity in your life, I’ve done it, and I promise it can work for you.

Your job. Open your mind to the ability for change to occur. Accept the advice I am giving you and implement the actions I tell you.

Pushing positivity in your life can do so much more than being happy. It can allow you to be yourself, wake up with more motivation to do more, you can create the life you’ve always wanted for yourself, and you can not only help yourself but help others.

There is too much negativity in this world; we need more happiness and more people willing to fight to make this world a happier place.

Do you know that feeling when you’re on vacation, sitting on the beach, or catching up with friends at dinner? That feeling like your soul is happy?

Don’t you want that more often? Don’t you want a life you enjoy where you can wake up each day excited?

You can have that. It doesn’t have to be some fairy tale lie you feed yourself and say only rich people can have. It’s a real thing.

But, to experience it, you must first believe it. You must realize there is a way to be happy, to do what you love, and live in an environment flooded with positive interactions.

For me personally, I found my love for writing through trial and error. I matched this passion with a deep-rooted want to help others live fulfilling lives, and now look what I’m doing. Making this very newsletter.

You can have a life where you enjoy what you want, block out the negativity and hate, and just indulge in the limited time you have.

We, collectively as a society, can push more positivity by helping each other out, being there for each other when needed, and not allowing all the hate and darkness to fill our lives.

We can stop looking to the news and social media for our daily cup of negativity. We can be more optimistic about building a brighter future together. We can be happier.

It’s all a choice; you just have to be willing to take and use it. No more hating your existence. Instead, let’s be what we want to be.

Why waste our lives doing everything others told us to and instead live purely off what we enjoy?

You can build a positive life. My job today is to show you how you can do that step-by-step.

With the framework provided below, you can kickstart your journey toward happiness and disconnect the negative chains holding you down.

Step 1 is the MOST IMPORTANT, and it starts by building awareness of the negativity. Not just what’s around you but also the negativity within you.

Moving forward, become aware of everything to do with negativity and realize where it is and how much there is.

When you start to move through each day, be aware of negative things said and done around you. Over time you can begin to change to avoid it or eliminate it.

Stop and think before you say. Stop and look at what you’re consuming when scrolling through social media. Stop and listen to what you guys are talking about when hanging out with friends.

Start to break down your everyday life and point out where all the negativity stems from.

Subtract the “nouns” in your life who are putting you down, making you sad or mad, not the right influence, causing you hardship, and need to be removed for you to grow.

Social media accounts that are feeding you false dopamine, toxic friends and family, demoralizing habits (porn, junk food, video games, etc.), and that boyfriend or girlfriend who mentally or physically abuses you.

Remove the negative influences to relieve your mind of the capacity these things are consuming.

Eliminating these bad influences adds more to your life.

Add the “nouns” that are good for you, bring you more joy/ positive experiences, and improve your quality of life.

Sports you enjoy, friends who positively influence your life, the gym for mental and physical growth, a passion project to work on, a healthy diet, reading, anything you can do to fill your life with good growth-centered activities.

If you fill all your time with positive things, you don’t have any room for the bad ones.

Flood your mind with positive feedback.

Youtube videos, books, podcasts, newsletters. Find online mentors who can bring you value and positive information.

Look for information on personal finance, philosophy, personal development, business, the gym, and dieting. Start to connect your time with positive information that can lead you to a higher state of being.

Don’t subtract bad things and add good things just to return to these toxic, brain cell-killing, unsatisfactory experiences.

Becoming a positive person calls for a lifestyle change, something I preach about.

These huge shifts in your life require a complete shift in how you go about life. You can’t just change everything about what you’re doing without the lifestyle and mindset to go with it.

Avoid the crumby and hateful things you’re so used to seeing.

Enlightenment comes from trial and error. Start to spend the majority of your time looking for positivity in everything.

Your mind, new or old friends, family, conversations at work, everything. Spend time in positive experiences and environments.

Being less negative and more positive means spending less negative time and more positive time.

While this seems obvious, most of you will read this and then go back to playing video games or watching Netflix instead of trying to find something valuable to do.

As you begin a path of positivity, you subconsciously associate your life with these positive things.

You will develop clarity of what needs to be done to keep pushing forward and living a life of fulfillment, meaning happiness, doing what you love, and enjoying in life.

These do not happen from being a negative person or doing negative things.

You will learn what people to avoid, what you enjoy doing, what bad habits to break, etc.

All of this takes time, but with effort and consistency, you will begin seeing not only your mindset shift but your entire life shift.

Negativity is everywhere, and it is impossible to avoid. You and I know this, but it is your job to recognize when this negativity is moving toward you and what you can do to prevent or eliminate it altogether.

In these moments, you put on your mental armor and shield yourself from these negative events affecting you.

With time comes the willpower to keep moving towards a happier life. A life with less conflict and more time is spent doing what you want, with the people you want to be around, enjoying everything.

Positivity comes from having the intent to seek positive people, experiences, and the enjoyment of life. Don’t allow others to bring you down. Life is too short to reminisce about negative things.

Seek positive and shield yourself from negative.

You can be happier and create the life you want with the experiences and people you want. You hold the power to eliminate these low-level, bottom-feeders striving to bring you down.

All you have to do is become aware of these “nouns” pushing to bring you down and change how you live your life.

If you aren’t where you want to be, then it’s your responsibility to change.

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Have a great rest of your day.

Remember, create your story, or it will be given to you.

-Isaiah